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Наткнулась на очень занятное исследование. Намеренно предлагаю его в оригинальном варианте, чтобы не исказить переводом.
каждая сама себе переведет при желании.
Но статистика меня впечатлила
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As I have oft said, you cannot draw any conclusions on what is either socially acceptable or the "norm" for FSU women vs american women based on agency experiences, from my experience the women at marriage agencys specifically looking for a western man do not represent a cross section of FSU women or their motivations, in general women at these agencies are drawn to this quest by a common set of motivations to leave their country, have a better economic situation and a view towards a more "stable" life - what there interpretation of stable is, well that is a entirely different question.
I decided to run a mini trial - RLM vs singles.ru vs match.com - RLM as your typical all you can eat smorgasbord of FSU women vs the singles.ru free for all of desperates, sex addicts, hookahs and singles.
In one week of RLM i got around 35-50 emails a day, of women from 18 - 44, of all levels of attractiveness, some letters were sincere, others were downright bizarre (SPANK ME! SPANK ME! SPANK ME!) and others were just to tedious to read, these responses came simply for me logging on-line and doing nothing - in terms of women i then wrote to I got around a 90 percent response rate.
compared to the same week in singles.ru with the same profile and photos. I wrote to a total of 38 women. 1 responded to tell me she would only date a guy who earned over 150K a year, all the women i wrote to were 24-35
I got 8 unsolicited mails, all from women who i would judge to be a 1/10, a 2/10 and a generous 2.1/10. all were divorced/seperated and had kids. the youngest was 32, the oldest was 46.
for match.com i got 1 unsolicted ******* from a woman so fat you would need a crane to get her into bed and who had 4 kids, she was 47. of the 4 women i wrote ( i could only find 4 that would warrant even a 5/10) i got zero responses.
No i consider myself not unattractive, im 35. no kids. i usually dont have a problem getting casual dates with around 6/10's and 7/10's of 27-35, yet here we have the clear level of disaprity between the girls looking for a foreign man, vs domestic vs our own country.
It became clear to me why we do what we do, its just EASIER and we get a BETTER RESULT.
irrespective of all the other considerations, western women are too damn spoilt by mens attentions, even women who dress like slobs, do no exercise, eat badly, behave badly and dont commit to relationships get enough action from desperate men to be picky.
In russia, of the women who don't want to leave, there are plenty of men prepared to "service their needs", for whatever reason they dont want to leave so bowing to a WM's ideals arent what they are into and therefore they put zero effort in.
the agency girls, and girls signed up with east meets west type agencies are the ones who have it all to do, simply because the pool of "acceptable" men vs timewasters, keyboard romeos, sex tourists, freaks, perverts is so much lower of which a handful will make the journey, then in order to achieve success they have to compromise much more than any woman would given an alternative.
So it comes back to motivation.
Women specifically seeking out a western husband are much more motivated, that motivation may be financial, it may be desperation, it may be loneliness, many other reasons, but unlike "casual" daters they are motivated to get their game on, and are more prepared to take a pragmatic decision on age, looks, location and other such situations to get a result. how successful this works out for them depends entirely one what compromise they made and their ability to live with the consequences in the mid to long term.
For men, well we aren't getting the pick of the cookie barrel. how ever much we think AWEB et al is loaded with hotties, these girls are all madeup, photoshopped etc to look like 8's when they are 5's. and the real 10's - well they don't need this gig at all to come to the west or otherwise.
We shouldn't kid ourselves too much, if theres at most 1.4m active women looking for partners from the FSU thats less than what? 1 percent of the female population, of those maybe 10 percent would ACTUALLY take a big age gap? thats less than 0.1 percent of the population.
All things considered this is the most over-hyped problem in the whole process, but it gets so much attention simple because you NOTICE them - the old guys are the most motivated to head over multiple trips to find a young hottie, whereas younger guys either never get mentioned, dont warrant any special attention or aren't putting the legwork in.
I would say the old man/young girl debate simply gets so many forum inches because it is the biggest problem men could face, and the ramifications of it are much bigger than any of the other cultural considerations/issues - but is it really a big problem? i dont think so, because it probably affects in reality a much smaller proportion of men who would go, meet someone then actually marry them than we would think - because we generally hear mostly about the bad situations and not the good ones.
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